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The jingle reached me first.
As my family walked into the St. Paul RiverCentre, the air hummed with hypnotic jingles from millions of coins sewn onto traditional Hmong clothes. Then I saw a sea of vibrant colors from the same festive garb worn by many of the thousands of Hmong people who gathered in downtown St. Paul this past weekend for a two-day Hmong New Year celebration.
Bringing my children to this annual festival is my small way to try to preserve their Hmong heritage. It’s a noble goal, but also one fraught with logistical hiccups and familial resistance, mostly from my children.
The first thing I did after we arrived was purchase sparkly, homemade balls for my kids — essential equipment for a traditional game. This ritual, a cornerstone of traditional Hmong courtship, involves young men and women facing each other in tidy lines, tossing the ball back and forth. In my youth, it was a flirtatious exchange: boys and girls trading smiles, singing kwv txhiaj (traditional rhyme songs) and — if all went well — exchanging phone numbers. Today, however, the game seems to have morphed into something more ... parental. All around us, moms and dads were tossing balls with their own kids, presumably teaching them the art of culturally significant flirting.
I took this opportunity to launch into an impromptu TED Talk for my children. “This ball,” I said, holding it aloft like a relic from an Indiana Jones film, “is your history. Marriages have started with these balls. Families have been built. Dynasties have collapsed because of these balls. You are not Hmong unless you toss a ball! This is not just a game — it’s a 1,000-year-old ritual steeped in —”
“Can we throw it now?” interrupted Jahia, my 15-year-old daughter.