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Dad was not the family gift-giver. He left that to Mom. I recall only three coming from him and him alone: my first “real” baseball glove on my 10th birthday, my first electric shaver on my 14th and a certain magazine at Christmas-Hanukkah time when I was 18. The thrill of the first two speak for themselves. This is about the magazine:
At Christmas Break (as it was called back then), dormitory residents at my university, except for the still-competing athletes, had to vacate. VW van-loads of the dorm peaceniks headed to the Bay Area, while the “straights” caravanned eastward to watch the football team play in the Peach Bowl. Everyone else headed home.
Except me. For weeks I’d looked forward to a snow-white holiday back in the Midwest with best friends and mostly Rita, my at-that-time long-distance dream come true. But a falling out with my father short-circuited all that.
Why? Sometimes the heartbreak at the end of a sophomoric long-distance romance makes a young man act like an irascible fool.
In a whiny written rant (I was forbidden to phone home except in emergencies), I scapegoated Dad for random things like tasteless dorm food, pointless classes (i.e., the two I was nearly failing), local shopping-mall Santas costumed in their bulky red Bermuda shorts and matching cowboy hats and Dad’s insistence I earn spending money, this time by mopping two Jack in the Box restaurant floors at closing time.
Above all, I needed to blame someone for an “It’s over between us” letter from Rita, one that began with an ominous “Hello” and ended with a gut punch, “Regards.” The same Rita who, on a late August night three months earlier, had purred into my ear, among other things, “What will I do without you?”