Dear Amy: Two years ago, my father-in-law called to inform his son (my husband) that he was being disinherited because, in my father-in-law's words, "We don't need his inheritance." He stated that his daughter who lives with him and takes full-time care of him would receive his money.
We moved seven years ago to be closer to our grandkids. Before our move, we fully participated in both of my husband's parents' care and occasionally helped to support his sister. She did not have a job or a home.
Admittedly, she does need his money more than we do, but I cannot get over the hurt of being cut out. Any advice?
Amy says: Your use of the word "disinherited" makes it sound as if your husband was due to inherit part of the estate, and now he is being denied because of some specific behavior on his part — or because the relationship with his father has deteriorated.
But from your description, it sounds as if the elder man has decided to direct his money toward the child who has spent the last few years earning it.
This daughter is receiving room and board, but she also is providing care that has a substantial monetary value. If the daughter inherits some money, this would help to provide for her into her own elder years, sparing your husband the worry (and possible expense) of taking this on.
This is your husband's issue — not yours. You don't describe how your husband feels about this, but if he has made his peace with this decision, then you should, too.
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Dear Amy: I have many wedding pictures from my son's first marriage. I'm pretty sure I should replace the framed portraits around the house with the pictures of him with his new spouse. But what about all the other pictures?