ST. JOSEPH, MINN. – When Emma Lamatsch was a high school junior in Arden Hills, she was carpooling with two other girls when they spotted a police officer.
One friend, who was biracial, said the country should get rid of all cops.
Lamatsch, who is white, objected, asking what the country would look like with no cops. To her, it seemed like it wouldn’t be safe.
Her friend called her racist, and the driver agreed, Lamatsch, now a college freshman, recalled.
“I felt so attacked, and shut down immediately,” Lamatsch told me. The episode ended her friendship with the girls.
How many friendships, like theirs, have been lost in America? We disagree bitterly about so many things, even what is factual truth, and end up walking away from best friends, co-workers, cousins, even parents.
It gets worse when someone tries to interfere with our rights. Someone trying to ban books, or prevent a woman’s right to abortion, prevent agricultural producers from farming a certain way, or forcing us to start driving electric vehicles. (For the record, I want an EV.)
Maybe listening to each other can help us disagree without our relationships ending up on the trash heap, and maybe even change our minds.