When I retired from teaching, on a whim I signed up to drive for one of those app-based car services. One thing you learn quickly is that with little prompting (like, "So, what do you do?") most ordinary folks are champing at the bit to talk earnestly (even to a stranger) about their jobs. And if you're lucky, how their jobs or even the jobs of their moms and dads, have shaped, their lives, for better or worse.
So on this Labor Day, amid the sales, closing up of the cabins, barbecues and the dreading of the next day's start of school, here's a story I was told about one guy's parents' lifetime of plain living and work with, well, a bit of a twist.
Matthew survived the Great Depression up on the Iron Range, because his father taught him how to find work and account for every precious penny that came their way.
Nearby, and at the same time, Matthew's future wife, Lila, and her family had so little that bread-and-ketchup sandwiches were often the main course at dinner. But they worked their farm as best they could and also managed to survive.
Whatever money both families scraped together they deposited in coffee cans or cigar boxes — not in the town's hanging-by-a-thread savings-and-loan.
Parting with their hard-earned nickels and dimes, quarters and occasional dollar bills was unthinkable.
When Lila and Matthew married, simplicity, self-preservation and honorable labor defined their quietly loving and devoted relationship.
Fast-forward many years, to about now. Matthew, having worked steadily and honorably all his life to support the family, was near death. Lila, who soon would live alone in the house they had built by themselves, gathered her grown and now-dispersed children for an announcement she felt was timely and sensible.