Dear Prudence: Three years ago, I divorced after only 18 months of marriage.
My husband was a university professor, and he had been having a nonsexual but emotionally intimate relationship with a student. I wanted to repair our marriage, he did not, and we divorced.
During the divorce, many details of similar “extracurricular activities” came to light. He was fired from one high school position for having an inappropriate relationship with at least one female student. After our divorce, I discovered that he had a sexual relationship with another student at his university, and that he had been urged to resign. He moved away with this former student, and we are not in touch.
Recently, I discovered that he is teaching at a prestigious co-ed boarding school and lives at the school. What is my responsibility in this situation? Aside from my bout of curiosity, I have moved on and have a happy life post-divorce. I assume a prestigious school does a background and reference check, and that they didn’t find anything unsatisfactory.
Still, there is a part of me that thinks — what if they don’t know? I feel like Eve — I ate from the tree of knowledge, and really wish I hadn’t.