True story:
Last week, the 16-year-old daughter of friends came home from a Minneapolis public school with a form that would allow her to opt out of the upcoming state standardized test.
According to the girl, her 10th-grade English teacher had handed out the forms to everyone in class and had urged them to get their parents to sign it. The teacher said that if enough students opted out of the Minnesota Comprehensive Exams, eventually the state would stop giving them. He also said he'd conduct regular classes for everyone opting out, leaving the impression that those who took the test would fall behind.
"Please," the girl pleaded, "Everyone else is opting out."
My friend said no. He thinks the state should annually assess how students are doing. So his daughter appealed to his wife, who also said no. Three hours of high drama, tears and anxiety ensued, after which the mom caved in and signed.
So that's the little tale behind one opt-out family. Six quick points:
1) I don't blame the 16-year-old. Who wouldn't want to opt out of a long standardized test — especially when your own teacher urges you to skip it and implies that you'll fall behind in class if you don't?
2) I don't blame the mom, either, because honestly, unless you've been besieged for hours by a teenage daughter, you really can't judge. Teens in full meltdown know how to expertly ratchet up the psychological pressure on their parents; they make Guantanamo interrogators look like amateurs. I'm surprised this mom held out for three full hours.