Q: My ex is just too wild to be a dad and I want his time with our child limited to supervised visits. He drinks, smokes weed and is just crazy at times. How do I make sure my child is safe when she is with him?

A: He's her father. It's up to him to make her feel safe — and up to you to let him. Sometimes parenting differences can be infuriating, but they are merely differences. This doesn't mean your child is in danger. If she's truly in danger, then there are agencies to help. But if you are not together, technically, you can't dictate policy based on he's not doing it how you like it.

Although it would be nice, people don't always change once they have kids. That doesn't mean you run the show. Legally you are both the parents, and if he's been there since Day 1, just doesn't parent like you do, it's not in her best interest to stop or supervise visits.

That said, if he's high when your daughter is around, that's another story. And, if there's been a conviction, then visits can easily be supervised and possibly should be. There are also precautions on a custody order that limit alcohol and drug consumption prior and during times with the child. If you have to tell someone not to be high when they are alone with their kids, that's a huge red flag.

So, what do you do? First you talk to him. Does he know what you think is inappropriate or do you just yell at him when you think something is off? Present your case in a calm demeanor, and if he still doesn't understand your concern, that's when you call child protective services or the police to do a welfare check. If this is a case of child endangerment and not parenting differences, they will intercede and Dad will have supervised visits because it is in the best interest of the child.