Q: My role at work is being revised following some reassignments and additional hiring by other teams. Assistance that I have been providing to those groups for the past couple of years will no longer be needed so I'll be able to focus more on my official position. This should be good news, but I'm feeling a lot of loss and anxiety. What should I do to get more comfortable in my situation?
Andy, 50, operations director
A: Understand the roots of your concerns and focus on the benefits you can realize.
When you step up to help other teams, there are a variety of possible intangible rewards. There can be a hero effect, with you coming in to save the day. That feels good, right? Or, in a company that rewards activity level over results, being busy might be seen as a route to security. And it can also be a shield to not fully coming through on some responsibilities because you are so desperately needed elsewhere.
At the same time, you might simply really like the other tasks you have picked up and not want to go back to focusing completely on your main job.
Motivations like these are based on increasing pleasure or reducing fear. Give some thought to understanding your underlying emotions so that they are not unintentionally driving your actions. If you are being driven by fear, reflect on whether it's realistic. Typically fears tend to be exaggerated, so you may be able to set some of this aside.
Then use this as an opportunity to optimize your job.
Examine the tasks you have been doing, identifying those that particularly resonate with you and that you are good at. For those that may not actually be part of "your" job, try to make a reasonable case for having them assigned to you rather than shifted to someone else. Most managers just want work to be done well, so it's plausible to think you could officially take on some of those responsibilities. If not, though, be sure to support colleagues who take them on, helping them succeed.