"Our ability to be happy in life hinges on the single question of how we measure our achievements." - Dan Sullivan.
In his book, "Learning How to Avoid The Gap," Sullivan observes that, when we measure our achievements against where we've come from, we enjoy a sense of progress. However, when we measure them against our ideals, the gap between where we are and our perfect outcome causes disappointment and frustration.
Should you give up your job-search goals entirely, to avoid this pain-inducing "gap"? Of course not.
But you should take time each day to note and celebrate your progress toward employment. Doing so creates a loop of positive feedback -- you feel a sense of achievement, which boosts your confidence, which makes you likely to make more progress tomorrow.
I have counseled thousands of job seekers since 1996 and only a small number track their progress like this. The vast majority fall into "the gap" of unhappiness by treating each day of unemployment as a failure. Not surprisingly, the vast majority of people struggle to find work, no matter what the economy is doing.
Try this today: Instead of berating yourself because you've been out of work for X number of weeks, track each day's progress and note your achievements, however small they may seem. Sullivan suggests a "positive focus" on 5 achievements every evening.