May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.
From "A Morning Offering," by John O'Donohue
When Chris Borland retired over concussion concerns after his first NFL season in which he made the All-Rookie team, many praised him for walking away from a potentially lucrative football career to protect himself from injuries that may never occur. It really is not possible to judge complex decisions like this — we can't know his financial situation, his love of the game, his health status, his other interests, or many other factors that may have led to his early retirement. He himself may not even fully understand his reasoning. But Borland's choice and John O'Donohue's poem may relate to an issue that I see all the time with our clients.
Why are our choices rarely integrated with our lives? One of our clients was asked to serve on a corporate board. Those positions don't often come around. They can be interesting, lucrative and prestigious. And she turned it down. She felt that doing this would have been in conflict with some current choices that she had made regarding time she wanted to spend away from work. She realized her dream right now was personal, not positional.