Q I just got back from vacation. Not only did my backup fail to follow through on the work that needed to be done, he has spread it around that I dropped the ball on it. It's created a lot of fallout for me. What should I do?
A Clear your name, get things done, and confront the issue directly by calling him on his behavior.
The inner game
It's tough to come back from a break only to find a mess to clean up. Start by dealing with your feelings about it. It'd be expected that you'd be angry or frustrated; don't deny these emotions, but also don't let them drive your behavior. Find a way -- writing, venting to a friend, exercising -- to get them off your chest and move forward.
Then do some fact-finding. First, review the plans you made prior to leaving to determine if there were gaps or ambiguities. Also assess whether your backup was the best person to cover for you -- if he had the skills and disposition to be effective in your absence. This step will help you address the current problems, and will help you with future planning.
A reality check on the extent of the fallout is also important. In some cases, "least said, soonest mended" applies. Get perspective from others to see if there is the potential for lasting harm. This is an area where emotion can cause overreaction, so be sure that you're being level-headed.
Finally, assess the practical implications: what work is undone or incorrectly done, what will it take to get caught up, and how will you get it accomplished?
The outer game