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Perversely enough, I did the killing in a cemetery. My mother needed to tend flowers there and brought me along. I was 5 years old. As we walked among the headstones, I saw a large leopard frog in the grass. I stomped on it, smashing the creature into red pulp.
My mother was enraged. She didn't strike me, and I don't remember her words, but she shamed me. I started to cry. Some of the tears were for the frog, or at least for my regret at its destruction. I wanted to fix it and with a certain horror realized this was impossible.
Some 65 years later I still feel remorse. But also gratitude for my mother's wrath. Her anger was righteous, my shame deserved — and obviously memorable. She could have rolled her eyes and accepted the timeless excuse that "boys will be boys." But for her I clearly crossed a line that day.
Why did I murder the frog? Fear? Morbid curiosity? Boredom? An expression of personal power? A decade later I had a .22 rifle, and was a proud member of the National Rifle Association in the era before it became a shrill and paranoid lobby for the firearms industry. I'd taken a gun safety course and marksmanship training on the firing range in the basement of the local National Guard Armory.
One September afternoon a cousin and I ventured into the woods just north of town to hunt grouse and squirrels. We were excited, aching to shoot and kill. My mother did not oppose this armed excursion. This kind of killing was culturally sanctioned and encouraged.
We tramped through brushy forest for a long time and flushed no quarry. We grew restless, our trigger fingers itchy. Then a moderately large, grayish bird glided into the mid-canopy several yards in front of us. "A grouse!" I rasped.