Pope Francis seems like a decent man whose humility and enlightened thinking sometimes put him at odds with more traditional segments of the Catholic Church. But good for him. I'll like him even more when he raises women to equal status in the church, which they'll never have until they can move into management. Still, his heart appears to be in the right place.
Last week, however, the pope's traditionalist side rose to the surface during a General Audience. In his address, Francis scolds young married couples for not wanting to have children. In fact, he complains good-humoredly, some couples have no children or only one, "but they have two dogs, two cats. … Yes, dogs and cats take the place of children."
Some of Francis' concern over pairs who prefer pets over progeny reflects his larger concern over falling birthrates in general. He cites a "demographic winter," raising the question of "who will pay the taxes for my pension, if there are no children? … Who will take care of me?"
Pope Francis doesn't attempt to square these comments with Jesus' injunction in Matthew 6:34: "Take therefore no thought for the morrow." But he can be forgiven for sharing the practical concern for failure to procreate with economists and demographers worldwide.
Appropriately, however, Francis' chief concern is spiritual. He asserts that parenthood is essential to personhood. "Fatherhood and motherhood are the fullness of the life of a person." And "a man or a woman who do not develop the sense of fatherhood or motherhood, they are lacking something, something fundamental, something important."
Of course, for himself Francis has chosen "spiritual" fatherhood over what he calls — revealingly — "real" fatherhood. But I doubt that he has ever changed a "spiritual" diaper or walked the floor at 3 a.m. with a really sick "real" child.
Francis is a good man, but his advice on this subject should be resisted, for at least two reasons:
First, he is wrong in asserting that a person requires parenthood to have a full, rich, abundant life. How do I know? I have such a life. And so do many other people without children.