The problem: There is a gal we dine out with often, and she is very selective about her food and drink. No problem, as I understand the need to find something one likes. However, once the food or beverage arrives, she will often eat or drink the entire item, then tell the server that it was not good and ask for a "free" drink replacement, or a discount on her dinner. This is extremely embarrassing and is not a "one-time" occurrence.
Low road: The easy, and tempting, route is to just stop inviting her when you eat out. But she'll eventually get wind of this, and you'll be forced to explain the real reason for the rejection, which puts you in an uncomfortable position.
High road: Face it. You're in an uncomfortable position either way. Your friend is lying. And stealing. And probably getting more than her share of heartburn with all those second courses. You need to step in, but gently. Go on the friendly offensive. Let her know that you're paying attention, and that you really want her restaurant experience to be a good one. As soon as she takes her first sip, or first bite, ask her how it tastes. She might respond with surprise (or, we could dream, embarrassment) at your keen interest. Offer up a cheery, "Well, I'm always sorry when your food doesn't come out the way you like it." She'll get the message eventually. Until she does, please leave an even more generous tip than you normally do.
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