"Senior citizen" sounds like something you'd mention to get a restaurant discount. "Mature" could conceivably apply to a well-behaved teenager. "Retiree" refers to a job status, not a life stage. "Old-timer" evokes a long white beard and overalls outside the general store. "Elder" sounds, to some ears, a bit artificially tribal. But tack on a "ly" and it's far worse -- in many people's minds, "elderly" might as well be a synonym for "frail."
So what the heck should we call people who are, um, you know ... old?
It's an increasingly fraught linguistic issue, with so many of us now falling into that category. The 2010 census counted 99 million Americans over 50, or nearly a third of the population. Depending on where you draw the line, the term might have to stretch to include everyone from AARP-eligible 50-somethings who grew up listening to rock and roll on devices that look only slightly antiquated today, to centenarians who can remember when their hometown was first wired for electricity.
Verbal landmines abound. In our youth-obsessed culture, few are eager to embrace labels that call to mind the very attributes we're busily Botoxing away. But reach for a euphemism and risk sounding cutesy or even condescending, as though aging were an affliction best disguised in distracting verbiage.
A 2007 survey of journalists uncovered some finely drawn distinctions. "Senior" was acceptable but "senior citizen" grated, "boomer" was fine but "baby boomer" raised hackles.
Baby boomers -- er, boomers -- that demographic behemoth heading into their 60s and 70s yet still haunted by a moniker that alludes to their infancy, are especially sensitive about terminology.
"The research shows that people who are boomers won't go to anything that's labeled 'seniors.' They don't think of themselves as seniors," said Jan Hively, 79, founder of the Minnesota Vital Aging Network and cofounder of SHiFT, an organization that develops opportunities for people at mid-life.
"Boomers," she said, carries overtones of membership in "a world-changing group." She also likes "older adults" and the dignified "elder," which to Hively suggests wisdom.