For three days after Tim Jacobsen died, friends held a round-the-clock bonfire at his home in Minnetonka, inviting people to stop for support, food and drink, tears and memories.
"I was going to stop by for 15 minutes and I stayed for a couple of hours," said Mark Peet, owner of Wayzata Bay Charter Cruises on Lake Minnetonka, where Jacobsen worked as a ship captain.
Jacobsen, 70, who died of cancer on Sept. 25, was widely considered one of the best captains on the lake — partly because he was good at handling a boat, and partly because he was good at handling people.
So the casual, friendly get-together held after his death seemed a fitting way to remember a man who was liked by pretty much everybody.
"He just had this special charisma and way to make people at ease and laugh," said his sister Tjody of Minnetonka. "He brought the fun wherever he went, he brought the light, he brought the joy."
Jacobsen was born in Minneapolis and grew up in Hopkins. In addition to captaining charter boats, he drove a limousine and, before that, worked as a carpenter.
He loved to fish and always carried several poles in his truck. Friends said he was physically active and a bit of a daredevil.
"He was a very charming person who was quick to make people around him feel comfortable," said longtime friend Al Bipes of Minneapolis, who organized the bonfire with his son. "He was a great joke teller, a great storyteller, he wanted everyone around him to have fun."