The St. Francis City Council has publicly censured Council Member LeRoy Schaffer for "harassing and offensive behavior" toward a 20-year-old woman at a community fundraiser in November.
The city ordered an investigation after receiving a letter from the woman, Amber Mengelkoch, alleging that Schaffer had disturbed her by speaking to her about his girlfriend, including details about how they first began having sex.
Mengelkoch said she found it "weird" and was disturbed that a man she barely knew would talk to her about his sex life -- especially at a fundraiser for a youth ambassador program at which half the attendees were minors.
"I'm 20. He's old," she said. "It's a little on the creepy side."
Schaffer, 68, acknowledged having spoken inappropriately but said it was a mistake. "I volunteered too much information. I didn't say anything in a crass or coarse way," he said.
Schaffer said he was offering "fatherly" relationship advice that was intimate but not graphic. He told Mengelkoch about how his girlfriend had asked him to make love to her and how he had then told his girlfriend that he would not do so unless they were exclusive.
"I made [Mengelkoch] uncomfortable, and I didn't pick up on it right away," he said. "Like a lot of dumb older men, I just fell into being too honest."
The incident occurred at a Miss St. Francis Ambassador Program fundraiser. Mengelkoch, a former youth ambassador, is the program's interim coordinator. "We didn't discuss my relationship, so I don't know why he would be giving me relationship advice," she said. It "pretty much came out of left field."