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LANGUAGE DEFINING WOMEN
Well-meaning — and problematic
The July 5 commentary "A second front in the war on women" should not have put the left's well-meaning, inclusive language on the same footing as the religious right's assault on women's bodily autonomy. Having my human rights count as less than those of a fetus is surely worse than having my language challenged. Yet I was grateful to have that discussion of language highlighted, because it has been worrying me for a while.
I have spent the past 68 years of my life resisting stereotypes and expanding the definition of a woman, while remaining defiantly part of our sisterhood. I built treehouses, avoided dresses, hated the gossiping fashion girls and the stinky boys equally (until I discovered sex), studied physics and math, and now lead collaborations of mostly male scientists. I cringe at phrases like "bodies with vaginas" and "birthing people," because at the end of the day, once you purge the word "woman" of its universal and sex-linked meaning, the only words left will be behavioral, not wholistic: words like "girly" or "femme" that refer to stereotypes that people can choose to manifest.
So then where does that leave those like me who were never girly and don't present as femme? Am I less of a woman? Does someone new to the game get to define me? Gender is supremely complicated, but trying to disentangle that ball of yarn by stripping out half of the colors, or parsing the rainbow with a new set of corporate names, is dangerous and exclusive. Overwhelmingly (but not always), women can be defined as having two healthy X chromosomes (not that incomplete, crinkly Y chromosome). We are the human template. But the sisterhood also welcomes women who used to be men and women who are sometimes men, and we have always loved whom we choose. I cannot define "woman," but I know one when I see one. And sometimes not. Can we leave it at that?
Priscilla Cushman, Minneapolis