Much of America is mourning with the family of Jacob Wetterling. Now we have learned of the "plea deal" in which his abductor would confess to a child pornography charge and would not be prosecuted for Jacob's murder. The recommended sentence is 20 years in prison. Are you kidding me? In our modern day of skyrocketing crime, overflowing prisons and a crime covered up for 27 years, the powers that be just cave and let this monster walk? Many states laws call for the death penalty in the murder of a child.
While I realize that Jacob's parents "agreed" to this plea deal, this involves so much more. It is a crime against all Minnesotans and all Americans. Too often we see this ugly process used to coddle the accused, who live to kill and molest another day. Stand up, Americans and just say no, not again, for the memory of Jacob and hundreds of other child victims.
James W. Anderson, Talladega, Ala.
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Like so many Minnesotans, especially those of my generation (I graduated from Northfield High School in 1989), I have sharp memories of the Wetterling abduction. And now, I feel both sadness and a deep sense of awe for the family's love and activism. My heart is with them as they begin this next challenging chapter, and I know many of us feel the same way.
And, yes, we should feel sadness. We should feel anger and outrage and powerlessness over a horrific outcome. But as we try to process these emotions, I feel compelled to add something based on my 20 years of experience as a clinical social worker and child and family psychotherapist specializing in attachment and trauma.
The one thing we must avoid is to be shocked and to think this tragedy is a unique one. They may not always lose their lives, but children in Minnesota are abused and hurt, every day. Sometimes their stories are told, and sometimes they are not and they are struggling through every moment with quiet desperation. Adults who presumably went through this kind of scarring abuse themselves and got no help when they needed it act out with monstrous behaviors in return, every day. And families are engaged in the painful process of healing from abuse and loss, often behind closed doors, every day.
I would ask us all to take some of the grief we feel and channel it toward supporting programs and agencies that help not only missing children but also children who are here but hurting. Continue bringing awareness to sexual abuse (and abuse of all kinds) and encourage schools to become trained in trauma-informed practice. Continue advocating for quality, accessible mental health services for children, families and adults. Doing so is a powerful way to honor Jacob and his family.
Marit Appeldoorn, Minneapolis
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