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It was growing dark fast. I hurried to bag leaves for the city pick up in the morning. As I dragged a bundle to the curb, a young man carrying groceries stopped and asked if he could help me. My inclination was to say no — but he seemed earnest and there was this issue of leaves and fading light. I gratefully accepted and during our chore, working side by side, he answered my questions. Yes, he is a university student. Yes, he lives in the neighborhood. "How is school going for you?" I asked. "I am a bit lonely," he admitted. He insisted on not only the yard leaves, but the driveway, and bagging the muck in the street. When we stopped, he refused to allow me to pay him. Turns out he is from Iran and a Ph.D. candidate in electrical engineering. I hope I see him again — if only to thank him in daylight.
I have worked with international students, and the quiet truth is most feel lonely. An oft-cited study reveals 75% of foreign students return to their countries without ever having seen the inside of an American home.
I wonder this evening if our friendly encounter meant more to me, or to him.
Especially when the world is tilted in wars and unspeakable strife, this student is someone's son and someone's brother. He is far from home and, yes, he worries about his family. Are they relieved he is in the U.S.? Or do they read about Islamophobia and fear for him?
I wish they could see him — not doing research in his lab, or cooking alone in his apartment, but demonstrating what it is like to be a good neighbor, on a leafy street in Minneapolis.
Jill Griffiths, Minneapolis