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I was driving home from a home visit (I am a physician) when I heard the news about the shooting. I had just visited an elderly woman and her family. She is dying of cancer. We met for an hour to explain and answer all of their questions.
When I got home, I called my daughter to see how she was doing. Her son, my grandson, was attending his first day of kindergarten. His school, a few miles from the shooting, was put on lockdown as a precaution. My daughter did not know whether or not he knew about the lockdown and why it had occurred. I told her that she and my son-in-law should have a conversation in advance of their son’s return home and determine what to say to him, if anything, about the shooting. Did he know about the lockdown and why it occurred? Did he know anything at all?
You would think that just having finished a long conversation with my patient about her terminal illness that I would have some guidance for my daughter. But I had none. I did not know what to tell a 5-year-old boy about the shooting of children praying in a church a few miles away.
So, I must ask all of you Second Amendment advocates and fanatics, who have witnessed so many, many mass shootings. You must know what to say. You must have prepared some eloquent words to explain this to a 5-year-old. Should we tell my grandson that your “thoughts and prayers” are all that is necessary? Or should we tell my grandson, “It’s not guns that kill people; it’s people that kill people”? Or should I tell him that we need all 400 million guns in this country in order for us all to be safe? Please, tell me what to say. Damn it to hell, tell me what to say.
Vic Sandler, Plymouth
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