The message of Emily Yoffe's recent article in Slate about binge drinking and sexual assault on college campuses (published under the headline "College women: Stop getting drunk" on startribune.com, Oct. 16) was as important as it was obvious: The best step that young women can take to protect themselves is to stop drinking to excess.
Young women everywhere — not to mention their mothers — ought to be thanking Yoffe. Instead, she's being pilloried.
A "rape denialism manifesto" full of "plain old victim-blaming," Lori Adelman wrote on the feminist blog Feministing.com. Erin Gloria Ryan, on Jezebel.com, accused Yoffe of "admonishing women for not doing enough to stop their own rapes."
Argued Yoffe's Slate colleague Amanda Hess, "We can prevent the most rapes on campus by putting our efforts toward finding and punishing those perpetrators, not by warning their huge number of potential victims to skip out on parties."
Excuse me, but no one's suggesting that our daughters should be holed up in the library studying every night, forswearing any semblance of a social life. Yoffe (disclosure: she's a close friend) is saying that the responsible advice is the one that I've been trying to impart for years to my now-teenage daughters: When you drink (because, let's be serious, they're not waiting until 21), don't drink too much.
You don't want to wake up like the female Naval Academy midshipman who started with seven shots of coconut rum and woke up in an off-campus "football house" wondering what had happened. (Answer: Sexual encounters with three midshipmen, two of whom are being court-martialed.)
None of this — none of it — excuses men, sober or drunk, who prey on women, sober or drunk, to have sex without giving consent. Men who behave that way ought to be punished. Parents should warn their sons: Not only does "no mean no," being too incapacitated to say "yes" may also mean "no."
But it is important to underscore two points here.