How do you convince college students that abortion is not a black-and-white issue but one with many shades of gray? That was the task we freshmen set before ourselves 20 years ago.
Our Religion 101 class had been split into three groups, each assigned a hot-button social issue and challenged to present the topic in various ways.
In our abortion group, a prolife member displayed a photo of an aborted fetus and spoke of her faith. A prochoice member, and the son of a doctor who performed abortions, explained the procedure and passed around the tiny instrument he used. Talk about two ends of the spectrum.
My three-member team took a different tack: to engage the class in role-playing. Even as 18-year-olds we felt strongly that there were many sides to this issue.
To begin, we asked each classmate to find a partner of the opposite sex and then sent the guys into the hall. While a teammate gave the men their instructions, I told the women roughly this:
"That guy out in the hall you just met? Today, we're going to imagine that the two of you hooked up at a party not long ago. You got friendly, one thing led to another and now he's pregnant." I paused. "He's pregnant."
A few women giggled. I smiled. It did sound funny saying those words out loud. "Not only that, but he plays on the football team and must break the news to his teammates and coach. In a few minutes, he's going to break the news to you."
The guys' task: First, to tell their female partners. Second, to determine, with or without her, what to do next. The sweatshirt-and-jean crowd shuffled into the room and took up their places opposite the women. Each couple was given 10 minutes to discuss, and, amazingly, their conversations covered every nuance in the abortion debate. Some couples began discussing raising the child or placing the child up for adoption. A few women took on a stereotypical male response: "It's yours to deal with. You should have been on birth control." Some guys took seriously what it might feel like to face this alone.