Beloved brother, you are interested in how mother died. In death there is nothing of interest, only great sorrow. I was present at father's and then mother's deaths. One stands by a living person and in that second they're dead. And even if you wanted to ask something but now you can't. And you remember that they can't speak anymore and then such a sorrow envelops you that you can hardly stand on your feet.
Letter from Serhii Neprytsky-Hranovsky in Ukraine to his brother Alexander Granovsky in Chicago, May 25, 1914
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For many immigrants who made their way to America in the early 1900s, letters from the homeland could be filled with death, hardship and, sometimes, reproach. In letters home, the far-flung writers might confess their worries, lonesomeness and, sometimes, guilt.
Often, though, the letters simply exchanged the stuff of life: asking about clothing sizes or wondering how the sheepdog died or trying to woo a girl back in the homeland. Letters were how bonds were maintained once someone had passed through what Donna Gabaccia calls "the saltwater curtain."
Gabaccia is director of the Immigration History Research Center at the University of Minnesota (ihrc.umn.edu), where a project to digitize letters between immigrants and those they left behind has been progressing toward a public exhibit, "A Heart Connects Us," that opens Monday at the Elmer L. Andersen Library.
"We chose letters that highlight the maintenance of emotion among people who are separated," Gabaccia said. "These are thinking, reading, writing, feeling people."
Letters from a man in Ohio to a daughter in Italy ache with a wrenching grief. Letters from a man in Ukraine to a brother in Chicago document the desperation of World War I. Letters from a woman in Croatia to her son in St. Paul seek promises that he will return home so she can "put in your hands these callous hands." Letters from two young men (unbeknownst to each other) courting the same girl back in Finland are hopeful, then hopeless, but always protective of her virtue: "Throw into fire as soon as you have read this."