'Me' generation: Tots love selfies

January 29, 2014 at 3:26AM
In this January 2014 photo provided by Brandi Koskie, her daughter, Paisley, 3, uses Facetime at her home in Wichita, Kansas to chat with her cousin, who lives in Oklahoma. An increasing number of parents of toddlers are finding their tech-savvy 2- and 3-year-old kids are obsessed with selfies (AP Photo/Brandi Koskie)
In this January 2014 photo provided by Brandi Koskie, her daughter, Paisley, 3, uses Facetime at her home in Wichita, Kansas to chat with her cousin, who lives in Oklahoma. An increasing number of parents of toddlers are finding their tech-savvy 2- and 3-year-old kids are obsessed with selfies (AP Photo/Brandi Koskie) (The Minnesota Star Tribune)

Every so often, Brandi Koskie finds dozens of photos of her 3-year-old daughter, Paisley, on her iPhone — but they aren't ones Koskie has taken.

"There'll be 90 pictures, sideways, of the corner of her eye, her eyebrow," said Koskie, who lives in Wichita, Kan. "She's just tapping her way right into my phone."

The hidden photos, all shot by Paisley, illustrate a phenomenon familiar to many parents in today's tech-savvy world: Toddlers love selfies. Entrepreneurs have caught on to these image-obsessed tots, marketing special apps that make taking photos super-easy for little fingers. You can even buy a pillow with a smartphone pocket so toddlers can take selfies during diaper changes.

But toddlers aren't the only ones taking photos nonstop. It's not unusual for doting parents to snap thousands of digital photos by the time their child is 2. Today's toddlers think nothing of finding their own biopic stored in a device barely bigger than a deck of cards.

While the barrage of images may keep distant grandparents happy, it's not yet clear how such a steady diet of self-affirming navel-gazing will affect members of the first truly "smartphone generation." Tot-centric snapshots can help build a healthy self-image and boost childhood memories when handled correctly, but shooting too many photos or videos and playing them back instantly for a demanding toddler could backfire, said Deborah Best, a professor of cognitive developmental psychology at Wake Forest University in Winston-Salem, N.C.

The instant gratification that smartphones provide is "going to be hard to overcome," she said. "It's going to have an impact on kids' ability to wait for gratification."

Julie Young, a Boston-based behavioral analyst, has seen that firsthand. She was recently helping her 3-year-old son record a short birthday video for his cousin on her iPhone when he stopped mid-sentence, lunged for her phone and shouted, "Mom, can I see it?"

"It's caught on the end of the video. He couldn't even wait to get the last sentence out," Young said. "The second the phone comes out, they stop, they look and they attack."

It's natural for toddlers to be fascinated with their own image (think mirrors), and that interest plays an important developmental role as they develop a sense of self, child development experts say. Watching a video again and again can also help move events from short- to long-term memory, Best said.

But like any other fun thing kids get obsessed with, too much of it can be bad. Parents should make sure some photos show the child with other family members or friends.

This January 2014 screen grab shows a photo collage provided by Brandi Koskie of her daughter, Paisley, 3, in selfies that Paisley shot on her motherís phone in an unsupervised moment at her Wichita, Kansas home. An increasing number of parents of toddlers are finding their tech-savvy 2- and 3-year-old kids are obsessed with selfies. (AP Photo/Brandi Koskie)
Brandi Koskie’s daughter, Paisley, 3, gets caught up in selfies. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
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