As soon as Rachel Bootsma looked at the schedule, she made up her mind. The Eden Prairie senior would not be attending the all-night party following her high school graduation ceremony, no matter how much fun it might be.
The party is scheduled for June 8. That is two weeks before Bootsma will head to the U.S. Olympic swimming trials in Omaha, where she will get her chance to make the team for this summer's London Olympics. She could think only of how tired she would be if she stayed up until 5 a.m. Her mother, Jan, worried more about how Rachel might feel years from now, when she considered the teenage rituals she bypassed as she built her life around swimming.
Bootsma, 18, never has attended a high school dance, because they always conflict with swim meets. Later this month, while her classmates make memories at prom, she will be competing in the 100-meter backstroke at a Grand Prix event in Charlotte, N.C. -- the same place she was during last year's prom. She doesn't date, she rarely goes to football games, and many friendships have faded away because she has no time to maintain them.
Given all that, Jan Bootsma talked her daughter into a compromise on the party. She got permission for Rachel to leave at midnight. Rachel reluctantly agreed to go, satisfying both of their goals: to keep her in touch with the normal rhythms of teenage life, while respecting her choice to commit herself to her sport.
"The party is really close to trials, and it does make me nervous," said Bootsma, second at last summer's national championships in the 100-meter backstroke and a top contender for the Olympic team. "But I don't think one night staying up until midnight will kill me.
"Sometimes I think, 'Will I regret the lifestyle I chose?' Sometimes, I do. Last year, all my friends were talking about prom, and that was hard for me. But I wouldn't trade what I have now for anything. I've experienced so much more than most people in my grade have ever experienced. I hope I'll still feel the same way in 10 or 20 years."
So do her parents. Their lives changed, too, when Rachel and her older sister, Katie, became elite swimmers.
Swim meets around the country have taken the place of family vacations. Bread and pasta have all but disappeared from the dinner table, and they regularly spend $750 on racing suits that last for only a few competitions. None of those things really feel like sacrifices, when they see how swimming has enriched the lives of their daughters.