Letter of the Day (Oct. 21): Motherhood vs. career

I 'leaned in' on the former, not the latter, and I don't regret it.

October 20, 2013 at 10:56PM
FILE - In this Thursday, April 7, 2011, file photo, Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook's chief operating officer, speaks at a luncheon for the American Society of News Editors in San Diego. Sandberg's book "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead" goes on sale Monday, March 11, 2013 amid criticism that she's too successful and rich to lead a movement. But she says her focus remains on spurring action and progress among women. (AP Photo/Gregory Bull, File)
Sheryl Sandberg is the author of “Lean In,” a book that left the letter writer with some questions. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)

I was intrigued by the Oct. 13 Variety section article regarding Katrina Alcorn's book "Maxed Out: American Moms on the Brink." I respond as a mother of two grown children who can still relate to Alcorn's angst. I respond, too, as a professional who recently finished reading and discussing Sheryl Sandberg's book "Lean In" with a group of colleagues.

While I appreciated the career advice offered within "Lean In," I remember wondering: "What if every parent of young children leaned in as Sandberg recommends? Who will care for our children? Where do they factor into this grand equation?"

I remember two competing thoughts in my earlier years: 1) Not even the best care provider will love my children as I do, and 2) There is some irony in leaving the workplace in order to ensure my children can be all they can be. The strength of Thought No. 1 eventually trumped Thought No. 2 and prompted me to leave the workplace for several years during a critical time in my kids' development.

My daughter recently labeled me an "odd feminist," and I suppose I am. I would have resented anyone dictating that my place was in the home, but I am grateful to have had the luxury to decide that for myself.

CORY GIDEON GUNDERSON, Lakeville
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