Let's start with the obvious: Jeans are tough to fit. I've spoken to women who have been questing for properly fitting jeans for more than a decade, women who have tried $19 pairs and $199 pairs, women who have sworn off them entirely out of sheer frustration. As a gal with a smallish waist, low-slung tummy bulge and squishy hips, I get it. I've had my fair share of dressing room tears over ill-fitting denim.
The good news is that right now, in 2016, we have access to more jean styles than ever before. I was in college in the '90s and wore flares because that was all the denim world offered to me. Now we can choose from flares, boyfriends, skinnies, straight legs and boot cuts in low-, mid- and high-rises. There are dozens of washes at dozens of price points and in a mercifully wide variety of sizes and inseams. It's a veritable denim smorgasbord, people!
That doesn't mean that finding your perfect pair will be easy. It just means you've got a better shot than ever before.
So if you're searching for that elusive pair of ideal jeans, here are some tips to make your mission less stressful.
How jeans should feel
Always start here, friends. Jeans that make you look sexy but squeeze your midsection uncomfortably will never get worn. Focus on comfort first.
Like any pair of pants, jeans should conform to your curves without cutting into your body. This means that if the waistband digs — creating the dreaded muffin-top — you're wearing the wrong size or the wrong style. Higher-rise styles typically cause fewer waistband issues because many of us are slimmer around our torsos. Then again, depending on how you're built, a low-rise might be the best way to avoid midsection lumps. Sizing up may feel demoralizing, but remind yourself that clothing sizes are arbitrary. Focus on feel. And cut out the tag if that pesky number bothers you.
The advent of stretch is a fine thing — lending stiff denim some give and flexibility — and most women prefer pairs with a hint of Spandex (myself included). Beware of super-stretchy jeans because they're sag-prone. I recommend nothing higher than 3 or 4 percent Spandex. When you're trying on pairs with stretch fabric, make sure they feel snug. They'll loosen with washes and wears.
How jeans should look
Jeans should skim your rear end without clinging. If they sag, they're too big. If they create a "butt shelf," they're too tight. End of story.