Homesharing can lower housing costs, increase companionship

Sue Ronnenkamp, 64, worked in health care and aging services for over 40 years. Her last job was with a startup company focused on the Medicare Plus market in Pennsylvania, but she lost that position in a layoff.

Ronnenkamp made the decision to shift to homesharing when she decided to leave Pennsylvania and move to Colorado in 2018.

"[Homesharing] allowed me to move far less stuff and make my relocation less expensive. I also believed it would be a great way to make the transition to a new city and state (my fifth one)," she said. "Moving alone is never easy because you have to establish yourself all over again and build new relationships."

Ronnenkamp knew about Silvernest, a homesharing service, and posted a profile before leaving Pennsylvania, ultimately finding an opportunity in Littleton, a suburb of Denver.

"This has turned out so perfectly living here with my housemate Sue Larsen, her dog Tyndall, and her cat Emily. I love and cherish my personal living space, feel so comfortable here in Sue's home, love the neighborhood, have become a part of her family, have connected with great people and services here in Littleton, and so much more," Ronnenkamp added.

There has been a significant spike in demand for homesharing that is being triggered by a perfect storm of events.

COVID-19 made loneliness and social isolation very real for older adults, rents are skyrocketing and forcing many to look for alternatives, and rising costs of living are especially affecting older homeowners, particularly since many are on fixed incomes, according to Riley Gibson, president of Silvernest.

A 2018 AARP survey found significant interest in homesharing, with 32% of Americans over 50 at least willing to consider it.

In a recent study by Silvernest, 66% of respondents said they'd consider homesharing, even though only 25% had lived with a nonrelative in the past five years.

Silvernest usually sees arrangements that involve two people, who are often mixed genders, and who almost always didn't know each other before. Demographic-wise, homeowners tend to be in their 60s on average, and renters tend to be in their 40s.

"Studies show for some states, if someone makes less than $25 per hour, it is not feasible to find an apartment. Simultaneously, one in three homeowners are mortgage-burdened," said Tess Fields, executive director with Home Share Oregon. "Additionally, most seniors are unable to afford expensive assisted-living facilities and need to age in place; however, they need help around the house to be able to accomplish this."

On Home Share Oregon, homeowners and renters are matched to one another based on compatibility, said Fields. "Many people will offer lower rent for help with chores around the house. Some people are looking for long-term leasing and others are more interested in a six-month lease."

"As we get older, our circle of friends tends to shrink or our adult children move away with their families," said Gibson. "It's nice to have someone around the house for the social aspect, or even just to look out for each other."

Most commonly, Silvernest sees empty nesters or recently widowed or divorced older adults with extra space turning to homesharing.

Rising rents and costs of living can make it extremely difficult for teachers or other service organization members to live close to where they work. Gibson said homesharing is a way for homeowners to provide housing at a reduced rate for those doing good in the community.

And on a macro level, homesharing can provide an immediate inventory of affordable housing. "Affordable housing for the aging is one of our country's most pressing problems, and here's a means to provide a solution at a fraction of the cost of other approaches," said Gibson.

There are several resources available to find someone to share a home. It can be as easy as asking friends or posting a room for rent at a local community hub.

Sharing Housing is an example of a nonprofit solely focused on homesharing. On the government side, the Montgomery County Housing Initiative Program in Maryland recently launched a homesharing program. The National Shared Housing Resource Center also lists local programs.

Setting clear and mutually agreed upon structure and boundaries is the most important aspect of homesharing. Silvernest recommends documenting house rules and formalizing boundaries in a lease and/or a homeshare agreement.

"This means having conversations about guests, quiet hours, expectations around cleanliness and tidiness, rules for TV use or shared spaces like the kitchen. Also, have an empathetic conversation around social distancing practices, cleaning, and other COVID-19 precautions," said Gibson.

It's critical for both parties to have a meeting of the minds on all these issues before they decide to move in together, so there are no surprises, and then to communicate along the way.

Gibson recommends agreeing on a time frame, while keeping things flexible with a month-to-month agreement. This provides stability and predictability, but also gives either party an "out" if the arrangement is just not working.

The space that Ronnenkamp currently occupies in the 70-year-old Larsen's home was previously used as a guest suite. As a (semi-retired) teacher, Larsen was working with an AmeriCorps volunteer, which led her to become aware of the need for cheaper housing.

Larsen's significant other, Jim, is also a retired teacher. Jim has his own house in another part of town — an arrangement that suits them both.

"We come and go independently, and each have our own lives, but we also share some parts," said Larsen. "We have brought neighborhood friends into our relationship and have done many activities together. It has added so much to our lives."

Ronnenkamp said she and Larsen often go on outings in the area, frequently accompanied by Jim. Ronnenkamp helps out with their house pets when needed — walking, feeding and taking care of them when Larsen travels.

Another benefit? Ronnenkamp was grateful to have live-in support after she had hip replacement surgery last winter.