For many years, Great Clips CEO Rhoda Olsen followed the business advice of her big sister, a successful, trail blazing, whip-smart lawyer in New York City: Don't wear pants, don't have coffee with secretaries, and don't learn how to type.
But last week, at the National Association of Women Business Owners (MN Chapter) Annual Awards Luncheon in Minneapolis, Olsen acknowledged this advice was somewhat limiting. Despite this, Olsen claims she has become the fastest two-fingered typist she knows.
Olsen's address was impactful because of both what she said and how she said it: she didn't offer soft, feel-good, clichéd advice nor did she sugar coat. Honest, forthright and even swearing at times, Olsen opened up, and was authentic on all things personal and business. In doing so, she proved to a packed-to-the-gills ballroom at Graves 601 that unleashing the rough, hardened and gritty parts of ourselves can be immensely powerful, stirring and motivating.
Olsen shared personal glimpses into her life as a child with an alcoholic parent. She called motherhood "humbling, horrifying and gratifying," and delved into the challenge of raising her three boys (only "one was good"). She told of how she once winced at a colleague's proclamation that he worked out 2 hours a day (Olsen: "TWO hours?! Imagine what you could get done in TWO hours – 4 loads of laundry" among a list of 15 other things). Yet today, Olsen acknowledges that taking care of our bodies is the ultimate confidence builder. A cancer survivor, her body is strong again – she does 200 pushups a day (and even beat a man in a pushup contest, topping him at 211).
Weaving together personal anecdotes and candid observations on business, Olsen's advice was applicable to not just women business owners, but to men, hopeful entrepreneurs, college students, and everyone in between.
Put aside notions of balance. Work/life "balance" is a hot topic these days, and Olsen boiled it down to this: "Things are going to be unbalanced."
She shared the story of how she helped one of her sons with algebra from the office. She would receive a fax from her son with the algebra problem, write out the problem showing how to solve it, and fax it back home. Though she wasn't home helping, she was helping.
Olsen's advice is liberating. It lessens the pressure that things should be balanced (for women and men alike), and replaces it with permission to pursue a life that is often imbalanced.