For Don Damond, George Floyd's death brings back pain of Justine Ruszczyk's fatal shooting by Minneapolis police

Fiancé of police-shooting victim feels solidarity.

June 6, 2020 at 8:31PM
Justine Ruszczyk Damond was fatally shot by Minneapolis police officer Mohamed Noor on July 15, 2017. ORG XMIT: MIN1902281403204047 ORG XMIT: MIN1904241306090059
Justine Ruszczyk Damond was fatally shot by Minneapolis police officer Mohamed Noor on July 15, 2017. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)

Don Damond sat under a hulking white maple tree in his backyard, 4 miles from where less than two weeks ago a Minneapolis police officer kept his knee on George Floyd's neck for nearly nine minutes.

A cardinal trilled cheerfully. Dusk began to fall, and the mosquitoes descended in force.

The days since Floyd's death have been disorienting for Damond. In one way, he feels a sort of spiritual connection to the Floyd family.

It was less than three years ago that Damond's fiancée, Justine Ruszczyk Damond, was shot and killed by a Minneapolis police officer in southwest Minneapolis.

The past couple weeks have made his fiancée's killing fresh again: "I just find myself crying, and I haven't cried in a while."

Damond knows that Floyd's family's pain will not subside in the coming months as the judicial process runs its course.

The situation will only get worse. That's what Valerie Castile — the mother of Philando Castile, shot and killed by a Twin Cities police officer in 2016 — told Damond after his fiancée's death.

Damond plans to reach out to the Floyd family and offer his sympathies as well as his empathy of having experienced a loved one killed by a Minneapolis cop.

It's a club no one should have to be a member of.

He gets how the two deaths are different. Ruszczyk Damond was a white woman; Floyd was a black man. Mohamed Noor, believed to be the only officer in Minnesota history convicted of murder for an on-duty killing, was a black Somali-American.

Derek Chauvin, the fired officer charged with murder in Floyd's death, is white.

One was a freak occurrence; the other symbolized centuries of American racial history.

Damond's fiancée's death was an in-the-moment reflex by Noor: If only the police officer had taken a breath before firing his gun, Damond thinks.

Floyd's death appeared to be about Chauvin exerting control and domination: He didn't want to let Floyd breathe, Damond thinks.

When Damond watched the video of Floyd's death, he focused on Chauvin's face.

"I just watched him," Damond said. "What's going on in his face? Is it fear? No. There's no fear. It's like a sociopathic killer. There's no remorse, no guilt, no anger. There's nothing.

"It's like he could be sitting there drinking a beer with his buddies. The look on his face was, 'I'm just going to snuff this guy and not even bat an eye.' "

There are two things at the heart of the nationwide protests after Floyd's death.

One is about police departments becoming too militarized, too "us-versus-them." That, and they often have bad hiring policies, shoddy policing and poor training.

"To me we're so united in solidarity around excessive use of force, and the reckless and inappropriate use of force, that left us losing a loved one needlessly and tragically," Damond said.

In that way, George Floyd and Justine Ruszczyk Damond are intertwined symbols of a police culture that's lost its way, and of police officers who aren't given the emotional tools to deal with a difficult job.

This part of the story is about how police departments must focus more on training, on changing use-of-force guidelines, on officers treating citizens with more humanity.

But the other thing driving nationwide protests — the reality of life as an African-American in 21st-century America — is something Damond understands he will never know.

In another way, though, Damond feels Justine has been invisible during local and national protests after Floyd's death.

Last Sunday morning, six days after Floyd's death, Damond visited the memorial outside Cup Foods. Nobody noticed him.

He was in awe of the sheer number of flowers. He looked at the mural of George Floyd on the wall, and he was overcome by loneliness.

"SAY OUR NAMES," the mural reads, above a portrait of Floyd. There was Castile's name. There were also the names of Jamar Clark, killed by a Minneapolis police officer in 2015, and Eric Garner, killed by a New York police officer in 2014, and Tamir Rice, killed by a Cleveland police officer in 2014, and more.

His fiancée's name was not on the mural.

"I've suffered the same loss — the same loss, at the hands of the same police department — tragic, reckless use of force," Damond said. "I get it. It is so complicated, and I get it.

Damond fears what is to come for the Floyd family. He knows the police officers' defense attorneys will "try and tear down the victim" to sow seeds of doubt.

"They've already started," Damond said: Reports that Floyd had COVID-19, that he had recently taken fentanyl and meth, that he had a violent felony conviction 13 years ago.

He thought of what Valerie Castile told him after his fiancée's death: "It's going to be a long haul, honey."

On Friday morning, while Damond was at work, his mother went to the memorial set up at the scene of Floyd's death. She spoke with protesters who were painting on the street the names of people killed by police officers.

The man running the project promised to paint Justine's name on the street, too.

Don Damond, Justine Damond's fiance spoke to the media.] Former Minneapolis police officer Mohamed Noor has been found guilty of third-degree murder and second-degree manslaughter in the fatal shooting of Justine Ruszczyk Damond. He was acquitted of second-degree murder. He was taken into custody.RICHARD TSONG-TAATARII ¥ richard.tsong-taatarii@startribune.com
Don Damond’s fianceé, Justine Ruszczyk, was killed by a Minneapolis police officer in 2017. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
Justine's name has been added to a list of those killed by police that is a part of the memorial to George Floyd near 38th Street and S. Chicago Avenue in Minneapolis, where he was killed.
Justine's name has been added to the bottom of a list of those killed by police, made on the Chicago Avenue pavement. The view looks to the south, to the intersection with 38th Street, where George Floyd was killed. (Vince Tuss/The Minnesota Star Tribune)
FILE - In this Friday, April 26, 2019, file photo, former Minneapolis police officer Mohamed Noor walks to court in Minneapolis. The city of Minneapolis is paying $20 million to settle a lawsuit over Noor's fatal shooting of the unarmed Justine Ruszczyk Damond, who approached his squad car after calling 911 to report a possible crime. Mayor Jacob Frey announced the settlement Friday, three days after a jury convicted Noor of murder and manslaughter in the 2017 death of Damond. Frey called the se
In this Friday, April 26, 2019, file photo, former Minneapolis police officer Mohamed Noor walks to court in Minneapolis. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)

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Reid Forgrave

State/Regional Reporter

Reid Forgrave covers Minnesota and the Upper Midwest for the Star Tribune, particularly focused on long-form storytelling, controversial social and cultural issues, and the shifting politics around the Upper Midwest. He started at the paper in 2019.

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