Finding your flirting style

November 1, 2013 at 6:19PM
Justin Timberlake, left, as "Dylan" and Mila Kunis as "Jamie" in Screen Gems' "Friends with Benefits." (David Giesbrecht/Courtesy Screen Gems/MCT)
Justin Timberlake, left, as “Dylan” and Mila Kunis as “Jamie” in Screen Gems’ “Friends with Benefits.” (David Giesbrecht/Courtesy Screen Gems/MCT) (The Minnesota Star Tribune)

It can be difficult to identify your flirting style, especially if you're a polite or sincere flirt. Here's some help from the big screen. If you identify with one of these characters, you may discover your inner flirt. (You also can get your own personalized flirting style report at flirtingstyles.dept.ku.edu.)

Physical flirt

"Dirty Dancing": Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey turn dancing into foreplay.

You're one if: You like to go to clubs and dance with strangers, and you use your body to flirt.

Polite flirt

"Pride & Prejudice": Keira Knightley and Matthew Macfadyen do a careful dance between desire and disdain — with perfect manners.

You're one if: You focus on proper manners and nonsexual communication.

Playful flirt

"Friends With Benefits": Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis try to keep their relationship all about the sex.

You're one if: You think a bar is a great place to meet people and you enjoy flirting as a game.

Sincere flirt

"Before Sunset": Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy talk, talk, talk and talk some more on the way to falling in love.

You're one if: You prefer a date with lots of talking first, then lots of sex later.

traditional flirt

"Princess Bride": Cary Elwes moves heaven and earth to save Robin Wright, his true love, Princess Buttercup.

You're one if: You think the woman should be the damsel in distress.

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ßPhoto credit by Emilie de la Hosseraye. Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy star as Jesse and Celine in Richard Linklater's "Before Sunset." ORG XMIT: MIN2013060314023235
ßPhoto credit by Emilie de la Hosseraye. Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy star as Jesse and Celine in Richard Linklater's "Before Sunset." ORG XMIT: MIN2013060314023235 (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
(left to right) Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze star in the 1987 movie "Dirty Dancing." File photo courtesy of Vestron Pictures.
(left to right) Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze star in the 1987 movie "Dirty Dancing." File photo courtesy of Vestron Pictures. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
Cary Elwes (at left) and Robin Wright (right) star as Westley and Buttercup in the 1987 movie THE PRINCESS BRIDE, a film version by Rob Reiner of the comic tale by William Goldman. Photo by Clive Coote, courtesy of Act III Communications and Twentieth Century Fox.
Cary Elwes (at left) and Robin Wright (right) star as Westley and Buttercup in the 1987 movie THE PRINCESS BRIDE, a film version by Rob Reiner of the comic tale by William Goldman. Photo by Clive Coote, courtesy of Act III Communications and Twentieth Century Fox. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
Keira Knightley and Matthew Macfadyen in "Pride & Prejudice."
Keira Knightley and Matthew Macfadyen in "Pride & Prejudice." (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
"Dirty Dancing"
(left to right) Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze star in the 1987 movie “Dirty Dancing.” File photo courtesy of Vestron Pictures. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
"Princess Bride"
Cary Elwes (at left) and Robin Wright (right) star as Westley and Buttercup in the 1987 movie THE PRINCESS BRIDE, a film version by Rob Reiner of the comic tale by William Goldman. Photo by Clive Coote, courtesy of Act III Communications and Twentieth Century Fox. (The Minnesota Star Tribune)
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