It's time for those of us who love to talk about wine to own up to something: There's no such thing as a "comfort zone" when it comes to our favorite beverage. The best anyone can hope for is probably a no- or low-discomfort zone.
And that's just fine — and not terribly difficult to attain.
Sensible people who delve into wine, or even make it their life's work, come to realize that the more they learn, the more they realize how much they don't know. There simply are too many grapes, regions and brands. (Good thing it's so tasty and fun to drink.)
But here's the deal: Wine does not ask anything of us. It is here for our pleasure, not to intimidate us. The consternation and dismay we might feel are self-induced, something we can address. We don't berate ourselves because we don't know every fruit in the world (how many of us can explain the different characteristics of Kaffir and Key limes?) and we shouldn't do it over this form of fruit juice.
The world of wine is complex, but no more than you choose to make it. It is your call on how far to journey down this road, whether and when to take detours or to just say, "Hey, I'm content in this cul-de-sac." That means recognizing that it's all about the journey, not the destination.
There are ways, however, to make that excursion more enjoyable and comfortable. Among them:
Get social: Besides being a social lubricant, wine is a sociable beverage, meant to be shared, especially with a meal. It's great for celebrations, but also for the most casual of gatherings. And a truly swell way to learn more about wine is to get friends together for a themed gathering and rummage through a region or a grape; have everyone bring Rhône reds, or sauvignon blancs from different continents.
No right or wrong: To each his own, because our palates vary wildly. As Mark Twain noted, "There are no standards of taste in wine, cigars, poetry, prose, etc. Each man's own taste is standard, and a majority vote cannot decide for him or in any slightest degree affect the supremacy of his own standard." In this case, it really is "all about you." If people ever tell you that you're wrong about your wine perceptions, that's their problem, not yours.