Eric Gary Barnes thought his first name sounded too much like "ear ache" for his liking. So he chose Edgar Burn, a name that stuck for his work on stage, among friends and around Mankato.
To a growing cadre of Mankato-area folks touched by his humor, hard work and generosity, what this father, musician, skateboarder and artist called himself was less important than what he was: Their friend.
Burn, 49, died March 30 at his home in Eagle Lake after battling pancreatic and liver cancer for nine years. Rather than be defined by illness, he worked, smiled and laughed in the face of most of what life threw at him, said longtime friend Scott "Chuck" Rodriguez.
"His positivity was just incredible," Rodriguez said of the friend he first met more than 30 years ago while skateboarding. They would drive together each week to Rochester, where Burn would receive treatment. It was seldom a serious drive. Rather, it was filled with laughter and jokes. Jokes about life. Jokes about cancer and, sometimes, about dying. Of course, with two best friends who met in high school, there were even a few fart jokes.
"Not that long ago, he said to me, 'Don't let anyone think I'm dying of cancer. I'm living with cancer,' " Rodriguez said.
Live he did.
He was a punk rock drummer who assembled his own kit using barrels and scrap metal. A graduate of Mankato West High School, he studied aviation mechanics in Eden Prairie and lived and worked in Minneapolis for a time before returning to the Mankato area, where he worked as a mechanic in Eagle Lake. A lover of art and music, he volunteered as a Friday night host for years on KMSU radio with the Minnesota Music Network and later launched the Midwest Art Catalyst to raise money for the creative arts in Mankato.
A post-holiday, chase-away-the-blues party he and Rodriguez organized morphed into a benefit a year later — after Burn was diagnosed with cancer. He was so moved by the generosity of those who contributed to his care that Burn decided to keep the party going for nearly a dozen years, using it to raise money for a variety of other causes. It was a way to pay it forward, Rodriguez said.