Although she is 70 years old, Theresa Byrd can still feel the sting of growing up Black in Liberty, Mo. — forced in the era of legal segregation to walk away from the white elementary school just blocks from her home to the Garrison School for Black students nearly a mile away.
"In my route," Byrd recalled, "I went up through town and frequently I was ridiculed, or relegated off the sidewalk, told to get in the street, called the N-word, was spat at."
A statue always loomed nearby:
At some 20 feet tall, it is a granite likeness of a Confederate soldier, atop a Confederate flag in relief, that some argue is a sacred and historic grave marker. But Byrd and a small cadre of others insist it is so abhorrent they are now willing to give $10,000 to the city to help remove it from the public Fairview & New Hope Cemeteries, where it has stood for 117 years.
"My intent is to be buried in the Fairview cemetery," said Byrd, who works as the deputy court administrator of Jackson County's Family Court. At least 50 of her relatives are buried in what began as a segregated portion of the cemetery.
"I pray, I ask God, before that day comes, for that monument to be gone, that it will not be lording over that cemetery when I am laid to rest there. ... It is painful. It is an abomination."
But those who defend the statue, surrounded by the unmarked graves of what may be as many as 40 Confederate veterans, insist it is going nowhere.
"We're not going to voluntarily destroy our own markers and monuments. That's what they're asking us to do," said Larry Yeatman of Clay County, an insurance agent and member of a local chapter of Sons of Confederate Veterans whose predecessor group, the United Confederate Veterans, erected the monument in 1904 on a plot purchased using donations.