Dear Amy: My fiancé and I are planning our wedding. As the bride, I'm planning on making certain requests of my guests, to make sure that my special day is as perfect as possible. For example, I'm asking that my guests wear exclusively yellow at the ceremony.
My fiancé has been supportive, but he angrily rejected my other request: that our guests remain silent throughout both the ceremony and reception (to ensure that the focus remains on us).
My fiancé does not want to have a silent wedding. I know it's uncommon, but we've had them in my family. The guests are not permitted to speak during the ceremony, and the only toasts allowed are from the parents of the bride and groom.
During the reception, the guests may whisper amongst themselves, but may not speak aloud. As the newly married couple, our focus should remain solely on one another, rather than on any rowdy guests.
I know it's a lot to ask, but I feel I should have the wedding I want. And I want him to support me, even if we disagree on something.
Is my fiancé's lack of understanding and support a red flag?
Amy says: Congratulations! You are on the verge of attaining legendary Bridezilla status.
Yes, there are many red flags here, and I hope your fiancé is paying attention to them, because if you are this self-centered now, I can only imagine what might lie ahead.