Last week, I decided I wanted a Reuben sandwich, and I was missing sauerkraut. For my Reubens, not just any sauerkraut will do. So I got in my car, strapped myself in, drove to the co-op that carries it and paid an ungodly amount for The Best Sauerkraut In The World. I got home, laid out my ingredients, and started drooling at the prospect of my delicious, most-craved Reuben.
And then I couldn't open the jar.
Why am I telling you this story? Well, it's simple, really. I couldn't open the jar because decreased strength in one's pectoral muscles is a side effect of breast reconstruction with expanders. Ten months ago, I couldn't even have strapped myself into a car, or even have driven, for that matter. It's little things like this that are the reality of life post-op — whether you're me, or Angelina Jolie, or the thousands of other women who have opted for preventive mastectomy and reconstruction.
As a third-shifter, I am up at ungodly hours of the night, so imagine my surprise when a member of my online support group posted a commentary from the New York Times regarding medical choices when faced with a diagnosis of a BRCA genetic mutation, which elevates the risk of breast and ovarian cancers.
Imagine my further surprise when, halfway down the article, I read the phrase "my partner, Brad Pitt." Like most of my sisters in my support group, I am simultaneously thrilled by the prospect of an A-list celebrity speaking up and lending awareness to hereditary cancer and dismayed by the public reception of said announcement. It wasn't until I read subsequent headlines that I started getting really angry:
"I Have the Angie Gene."
"I Had the Angelina Jolie Mastectomy."
All this exposure is great. While breast cancer is definitely on the radar, ovarian cancer is sadly not as much, and hereditary exposure to either is lacking a lot of coverage. When I read headlines like these, I feel like my experience is trivialized. Yes, I was back to work within a couple of weeks, but that is not everyone's story.