By now the "Duggar Scandal" is seemingly old news and yet everybody's still talking about it. Fifteen years ago, Josh Duggar molested four of his sisters and one friend. He allegedly confessed, his parents tried to deal with it in-house and eventually, when much time had passed, went to authorities.
Both Josh, now 27 and his wife, his parents and a couple of his sisters have made statements. He's apologized yet resigned from his position in D.C.
And yet, we're still reeling.
Did you know that 1 in 4 little girls and 1 in 6 little boys will be sexually assaulted by the time they are 18 and over 90% of them will be assaulted by someone they know. [Source: Erin's Law]
It seems we spend a decent amount of time preparing our children for life situations. Look both ways before you cross the street. Don't go with strangers. Run outside the house if there's a fire. Our schools even do lock down drills.
Yet, we don't talk about this.
I know because last week my son, who just completed third grade, overheard something on the news about the Duggar Scandal and had questions.
"Why would someone want to touch a little kids private parts?" he asked.
And the conversation had me squirming.
If there's anything good to be taken out of the "Duggar Scandal" it's this. It's never going to feel like the right time to talk to your kids about this but you need to do it.
Have a simple conversation with your child, whether they are 4 or 14, about their body and who can look at and touch their body. If you need pointers, check out Erin's Law website. Erin Merwyn has devoted her life to protecting children nationwide by advocating for schools to teach children to protect themselves from sexual abuse and also to teach children to tell. Current statistics show that only 1 in 10 children will ever tell an adult what has happened to them. While the law hasn't been passed yet in Minnesota, it has been introduced.
Another good resource is this blog post from local blogger Dugans in Cahoots. What Goes On In Your Home? An important reminder to pay attention, ask questions and teach your children what is and isn't ok.
Have you heard of Erin's Law? Have you talked to your children about what is and isn't appropriate when it comes to their body?