"What would possess your husband to want to return to Vietnam?"
This was a question I heard more than once as my husband, Rob, a second lieutenant in the Army in 1969 and now a soon-to-be septuagenarian, and I prepared to embark on a small group-biking adventure. We were headed to the country whose very name hung with dread over our young lives in the last years of the turbulent 1960s.
Rob had always said it was a beautiful country, despite the ravages of decades of war, and we were finally going to travel there. The trip, in February of this year, was mostly for him — especially the cycling aspect. He had become a cyclist after many years as a runner, and this trip promised to charm us, along with 22 others (none of whom we knew) with beautiful countryside scenery from the close-up and personal seats of bicycles.
We chose the tour company because it offered the cities my husband wanted to see in the area near were he had lived during his yearlong tour of duty.
First, I had to learn to become a better cyclist. I had never done much time on wheels, though we live very close to the Chain of Lakes in Minneapolis, where bikers abound. We can count hundreds speeding past our house as they pedal down the parkway. So I started riding in order to be able to participate at a decent level during the seven days we would roll in Vietnam and Cambodia. A friend even coached me: I "practiced" starting and stopping in a nearby church parking lot, knowing that being able to do it well would be paramount on the trip.
Our tour leaders were fantastic fellow-travelers, delightfully congenial and engaging. Almost miraculously, my husband was able to get within a mile of the river island on which he had lived west of the city of Hoi An, getting close from a small boat that plied the waters of the Perfume River. Our in-country guide, who went by Dragon and whose father had fought for the North Vietnamese, was an immense aid, helping Rob to find this former home.
Bringing the laminated map that he had carried throughout his tour in Vietnam, Rob sought opportunities to engage, speaking Vietnamese in conversations with locals, asking if they knew Xuyen Long, another city he was stationed near for a time.
As he later explored the area alone on his bike one afternoon, he was able to find a landmark temple, perfectly matching a photo he had brought from home that marked the former site of his village. So he knew he was within a very short distance of where he had lived. And close was more than good enough.