Tuesday is the 46th anniversary of the U.S. Supreme Court's Roe vs. Wade decision striking down laws that criminalized or restricted access to abortions. I can't help remembering how I felt about this constitutional right for women back in 1984, when I was 18 years old, pregnant and terrified.
My most prominent feeling was one of gratitude. I was grateful that I had a choice — grateful that I could not be forced to endure a pregnancy and bring a child into this world when I was grossly unprepared to do so, emotionally, intellectually and financially. I was thankful that I had the right to choose, guaranteed to me and other women by the court on Jan. 22, 1973.
While I agonized over my decision of what to do — have an abortion, have the baby and raise it, or have the baby and place him or her for adoption — I vividly remember the ugly and unproductive anti-choice rhetoric and violence that I saw nearly every day in the newspapers and on television.
In the fall and early winter of 1984, there were ongoing clinic protests and picketing, and there was harassment of women seeking service and extreme violence against providers. I couldn't believe what these zealots did and said to women who were trying to make the right choice about their health and life, a right they were and are guaranteed.
After much thought, prayer, internal debate and discussions with my family, I ultimately decided to have the baby and place her for adoption. It was the most difficult thing I've ever done, but it was the right choice for me.
While I chose adoption and am an adoption advocate, I am also a fervent supporter of choice. How one responds to an unplanned pregnancy is an intensely personal decision that no one should make for a woman, except her and those she chooses to include.
Nearly 34 years after I made my personal choice, I am frustrated and dismayed that we are still distracted by and debating a woman's right to choose. Think of what we could achieve as a country if we'd quit fighting over abortion rights — which nearly 60 percent of Americans agree should be legal in all or some cases — and come together to support women and motherhood and catch up to the rest of the world.
It is grossly hypocritical that anti-choice politicians and others who claim to be "pro-family" continue to focus on destroying abortion rights and access to birth control when our country is so miserably failing mothers, children and families on so many other fronts. We can do better, much better. Here are a few of the ways we are failing: