For more than 70 years, Catherine Tauer has woken to a bedside photograph of the World War II soldier she married in 1943. Her cheerful morning ritual of saying hello to him covered the anguish of not knowing where he was.
The Minnesota man, Gerald Jacobsen, was counted among more than 82,500 U.S. soldiers missing in action since World War II. But no longer.
An Illinois woman used four digits written on the underwear of an unknown U.S. soldier buried in France to identify Jacobsen. After DNA tests confirmed it, Tauer, now 94, is counting the days until his remains return home.
"We tried so hard and for so long," she said in a recent interview in her Roseville home, tearing up as she spoke. "If I could just see the casket at Fort Snelling, I would be so happy. I wanted to see it before I die."
She balled her fists and wiped the tears before they fell. The years of not knowing have etched a kind of grief that she can't erase. "Maybe after the funeral I'll be better."
She never found peace at her husband's memorial marker at Fort Snelling. "I look at it, and I know he's not there," she said. "I'm praying to a stone. I want him to be there."
She was 17 when she fell in love with Jacobsen, who was five years older and her brother's friend.
"I think he got tired of him and he took to me," Tauer quipped, setting off a robust laugh as she reminisced at her kitchen table. "He took me to a couple of shows at the time, and that was it."