There is life — and even love — after a breakup.
You can pick yourself up off the bathroom floor and get yourself ready for better things to come, according to breakup veterans Maryjane Fahey and Caryn Beth Rosenthal, authors of the new book "Dumped" (Sellers Publishing) and the blog dumped411.com.
Their advice? Forget closure. You're never going to hear what you need or want to hear, and there will always be gray areas you won't understand. Don't keep the wound open by seeking resolution, they say.
Here are their other tips for the road to healing:
• Cut off all contact. If you check in with your ex every once in a while, you relive the whole relationship, want it back and make it harder for yourself to move on.
• Allow yourself to wallow — for a bit. Take a hot bath, cry, give yourself time to come out of the victim phase.
• Stop the drama. Remember that this is not a tragedy; it is a bad moment in your life, and it will pass.
• Forgive your ex — and yourself. Be grateful for the time you had together. Let it go.