Apron strings. Umbilical cord.
Whatever the ties that bind you to your parents may also bind your future spouse as well.
And he or she may not appreciate it.
You like talking to your mom several times a day, but your fiancé may find that annoying. Your dad might be in the habit of popping by — unannounced. Your future spouse may fail to see the charm.
Marriage means starting a new family together. While that doesn't mean you have to leave your parents by the wayside, some adjustments to your old family dynamic are inevitable — even essential — to the health of your marriage.
We are all bound to our parents in complex ways that can be beautiful, confounding and infuriating. But the ties that bind us to our parents should never be used to oppress our spouses. As you plan for a new life with your partner, be sure you establish healthy boundaries with parents — boundaries that allow your new marriage to thrive.
Here are some ways to cut the cord without cutting off a lifeline:
Accept the change. Your fiancé may never be as fond of your parents as you are. Hopefully, he or she will grow to love and respect your parents, or at least get along with them. But expecting your fiancé to embrace your parents the way you do isn't realistic.