For 18 years Toni Bachman's family held out hope that she was still alive somewhere, hiding, perhaps, from an abusive husband who was upset that she planned to leave him.
They continued hoping even after that husband, Norman A. Bachman Jr., was arrested this past April and charged with murder in connection with her disappearance in April 1997.
"Why wouldn't you?" said her brother, Jody Reineccius.
They had no confession. They had no body.
But Friday afternoon, hope gave way to a brutal reality, when Toni Bachman's loved ones finally heard the grisly details from Norman Bachman himself as he pleaded guilty in Ramsey County District Court to first-degree manslaughter in her death.
Unshaven and clad in a red jumpsuit, Bachman sat on the witness stand and confessed matter-of-factly: He and Toni Bachman scuffled and he squeezed her neck with two hands until she died. He dragged her into a "cold room" in the basement of their White Bear Township home, and days later, used a filet knife and hand saw to decapitate her and remove her arms and legs.
He later buried her body parts at "a location from my childhood," he said.
He told the court that he removed her arms, legs and torso from black garbage bags when he buried them in the dark of night. But his wife's head, he testified, remained in a bag.