Every time Jeff Goldstein encounters someone he hasn't seen for a couple of years, he knows where the conversation is headed.
"They're going to ask me what I'm doing these days," he said, "and when I tell them, they're going to say: 'What?' "
For 32 years, he was a hard-charging, nose-to-the-grindstone commodities trader, overseeing deals that totaled hundreds of millions of dollars.
Now he's the embodiment of easygoing as he focuses on what he calls "M and M — massage and music."
Not just any type of massage. He reaches out to special-needs clients, including offering palliative care to people nearing the end of their lives. He also fronts a jazz group.
Goldstein understands that it looks as though he did a 180, pivoting from a world seen as the pinnacle of emotionless, data-driven analysis to one awash in touchy-feely empathy.
He doesn't put much stock in those clichés, however.
The futures trader as a cutthroat mercenary who would stop at nothing to make a dollar "is purely a Hollywood image," he said. " 'Despite what [last year's hit movie] 'The Wolf of Wall Street' showed, some of the most successful traders I know are also among the nicest people I know."