Minnesota marriage equality for the sake of kids

Children stand with their parents in call to end second-class status.

February 27, 2013 at 6:18PM
Dr. Paul Melchert got an unexpected car across the face from son Emmett while he spoke at the news conference. Behind him is husband James Zimmerman with the couple's other son Gabriel. Surrounded by same-sex couples and their children, Senator Scott Dibble and Rep. Karen Clark introduced their bill to legalize same-sex marriages in Minnesota. Wednesday, February 27, 2013.
Dr. Paul Melchert got an unexpected car across the face from son Emmett while he spoke at the news conference. Behind him is husband James Zimmerman with the couple's other son Gabriel. Surrounded by same-sex couples and their children, Senator Scott Dibble and Rep. Karen Clark introduced their bill to legalize same-sex marriages in Minnesota. Wednesday, February 27, 2013. (Dml - Star Tribune/The Minnesota Star Tribune)

Any parent who's ever had to manage a toddler in public would have identified with Dr. Paul Melchert at a Capitol news conference Wednesday. As the Minneapolis pediatrician spoke in support of eliminating the state's statutory bar to same-sex marriage, his son Emmett, age 3, entertained the Capitol press corps by grabbing the microphone, running a toy truck over his dad's head, placing a small hand over his father's mouth, kissing his dad's cheek and whining, "I want you to stop talking!"

Despite the duress, Melchert managed to make his point: Research shows that children of same-sex couples are as likely to thrive as those raised by opposite-sex parents. But because their families are denied legal marriage, some of those children experience needless financial and psycho-social hardship.

His was one of three same-sex families -- spouses and children -- who appeared at a news conference announcing the introduction of bills to eliminate the state's 1997 statutory bar to same-sex marriage. The presence of fussy babies and wiggly toddlers underscored the point that marriage equality isn't just about justice for adults. It's about equality under the law for their children too.

"Children suffer each and every day that their parents are denied legal marriage," said Rabbi Michael Adam Latz of Shir Tikvah congregation in Minneapolis, who was present with his partner Michael and their two daughters. Punctuating that message with impatient kids -- and a toy truck -- may help instill a sense of urgency among legislators weighing when to act on this session's marriage equality legislation.

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