Q: Inquiring female minds want to know what ages define cougar activity.
-- Probably Guilty As Charged
A: Aw, don't feel guilty! The May-December romance is a thing of beauty, especially when that beauty not only comes from a sexy elegance of a mature woman, but also from the hot body of a nubile young man.
I don't see nothin' wrong with a little bump and grind between two consenting adults, even if the age spread turns a few heads. According to sites like Cougared.com, GoCougar.com and -- ahem -- AARP.org, the lure of the younger man is about more than just sex.
Lots of full-grown femmes are seeking out boyfriends under 30 because their older counterparts just aren't physically fit enough. Activities like yoga, pilates and ballroom dancing are all the rage with the Nice N' Easy set, yet many of the Just for Men gents aren't interested in keeping up on their fitness after 40.
Many cougars say that men their age bring too much baggage to the relationship. Bitter divorces often leave lingering hurt emotions in men. Plenty of cougars have left bad marriages of their own and are looking for a sense of self again; a woman finally untethered and independent isn't interested in a man grasping for someone, anyone, to pull his life back together.
And of course there's the sex. Hallelujah for Viagra, sure, but a stiff chubby doesn't block the view of a beach-ball belly and flabby bingo wings. If it's been a decade or two since you've seen the 25-year-old male physique in all its naked glory, then start preening your fur and stalking your prey. His muscles are hard in all the right places and no prescription is required to activate his sex drive.
To answer your question, I'd say that if you're 40 but scouting the 25-30 group, then you're a cougar. If you're over 40 and your man was born more than a decade later, then you're definitely a cougar. Any woman under 40 who exclusively dates men 5 or more years younger is what's referred to as a cougar in training.
