Dear Amy: Is couple failing at feng shui?

  • Article by: AMY DICKINSON
  • July 20, 2013 - 2:00 PM

Dear Readers: I’m marking my 10-year anniversary of writing the “Ask Amy” column by rerunning some of my favorite Q-and-A’s from the early days of the column. I return next week.

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been living together for three years. Early on we agreed to embrace the feng shui style of decorating. I requested that we remove from our bedroom the decorative wooden chest made for her by an old boyfriend. I also requested that we replace his two framed etchings in our dining room with our own photos or artwork.

Her response was that neither the chest nor the etchings represented any current energy between her and her old boyfriend.

I have not restated my request for the past year. I don’t want to be a troublemaker, but those items contain strange energy for me! I’m not asking her to throw them out, just move them to a less prominent place in our home. Are we failing Feng Shui 101?

Amy says: I don’t know that much about feng shui, but I can tell you that the negative energy flowing from your letter has made me want to light a scented candle and rearrange my office.

Before you express yourself by accidentally-on-purpose smashing the framed etchings against the decorative chest, you’d better have another conversation with your girlfriend.

In every relationship, there are some “non-negotiables.” I would think that if these decorative items still make you uncomfortable after three years, they should be moved.

I’m sure that these expressions of decorative violence aren’t in the feng shui handbook, but a little burst of openly negative energy might be a great way to clear the air inside your home. (2004)

Stalker vs. creep

Dear Amy: I have been following basically the same route to work for the past seven years. In that time I recognize several good-looking women driving the same route. I have only seen these women in their cars. I wonder how they would look if I could see them out of the car.

Since I know where they turn in to their places of work, it would be easy to follow them one day and watch. If I did this, would I be a stalker?

Amy says: No, you’d just be a creep. For now, it’s a legal distinction — which I hope you won’t explore further. (2003)

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