Former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger, left, and wife, Maria Shriver, shortly before their split in 2011. Schwarzenegger admitted to fathering a child with the couple's housekeeper.

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2009 photo: Former Vice President Al Gore and his wife Tipper, in happier times. The following year they announced that they were separating after 40 years of marriage.

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Late-life divorce marks another baby boomer trend

  • Article by: Susan L. Brown
  • April 2, 2013 - 8:03 PM

Until recently, it would have been fair to say that older people simply did not get divorced. Fewer than 10 percent of those who got divorced in 1990 were 50 or older. Today, one in four people getting divorced is in this age group.

It turns out that those high-profile breakups of Tipper and Al Gore, and of Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger, were part of a trend.

Baby boomers, who drove the huge increase in divorce that began during the 1970s and persisted through the early 1980s, are at it again.

The rise in “gray divorce” is a product of dramatic changes in the meaning of marriage in America over the last half-century. We live in an era of individualized marriage and high expectations for marital success.

Today’s Americans expect marriage to provide them not simply with stability and security but also with self-­fulfillment and satisfaction. Roles are flexible; the traditional breadwinner-homemaker model is no longer status quo. Good spouses share open communication and are best friends.

This is a high bar for many to achieve, let alone maintain over decades while juggling work and child-rearing.

If a marriage is not achieving these goals, then divorce is an acceptable solution, according to most Americans. As Ann Landers famously advised those considering divorce, simply answer the question, “Are you better off with or without your spouse?”

For many boomers, the question is a familiar one because they have already gotten divorced, picked up the pieces and moved on. Boomers are more likely than previous generations to have divorced and remarried. And those remarriages, it turns out, are at greater risk of ending in divorce.

In part, that’s because of the relationship challenges associated with forming a stepfamily. Plus, these individuals have demonstrated their willingness to leave an unsatisfactory marriage. A study that I conducted with I-Fen Lin found that the divorce rate among couples ages 50 and older was 2½ times higher for those in remarriages than in first marriages.

Another factor is an increased tendency of couples to reassess their unions at life turning points, such as an empty nest or retirement. Lengthening life expectancies can play a role, too. Men and women who are 65 can expect to live 20 more years, a long time to spend with someone you may not like so much anymore.

Because relatively few older adults divorced in the past, there is little research on the implications of later-life divorce for the well-being of individuals, families and society at large.

Still, there are some things we can infer. When couples divorce in later life, there are fewer years ahead of them than behind, meaning they have limited opportunities to make up for the financial losses often associated with divorce.

Some will have to stay in jobs longer than they would have had they not divorced, or will try to reenter the labor force late in life. Those unable to prolong employment may find themselves in unexpectedly straitened circumstances.

For economically secure older adults in good health, a divorce may have minimal negative consequences and actually can be freeing and empowering, at least for the initiator of the divorce. But for less-advantaged older adults, a late-in-life divorce can be devastating.

Whether those who divorce later in life will try their luck again in the marriage market is unclear. Many will undoubtedly remain single, or pursue unmarried, cohabiting relationships that require less commitment and legal entanglement.

One in three baby boomers is currently single, and these boomers are more vulnerable both economically and socially compared with married boomers. They are also in poorer health, raising questions about who will care for them as they age.

The Beatles, the icon of boomers around the globe, were prescient when they sang, “Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m 64?”

Increasingly, the answer is no.


Susan L. Brown is a professor of sociology and codirector of the National Center for Family and Marriage Research at Bowling Green State University. She wrote this article for the Los Angeles Times.

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